13 things that will happen when you level-up as a person

13 things that will happen when you level-up as a person13 things that will happen when you level-up as a personEvery next level of life will demand a different you. - Leonardo DiCaprioAccording to meta-analytic data, confidence isnt what leads to success. Instead, successful behavior is what creates confidence.Unlike dopamine which only lasts short-term, confidence is something you own, once youve earned it. Short-term pleasure and long-term joy are two fundamentally different outcomes.Once youve begun succeeding at any endeavor, youll reach a threshold where you must decide if youre ready to go to the next level. Most people get comfortable at a certain stage because they dont want to absprache with the emotional purging involved in up-leveling.When you decide to up-level and go bigger, your life becomes very difficult for a short period of time. You may have mastered algebra, but now youre in a calculus class and feel completely disoriented.Despite having a firm foundation, you fe el like youre standing on nothing, and that everything around you is falling apart.Have you up-leveled lately? If so, this list of 13 will be familiar.Dont fret, youve been through this before. Youve come this far. Youve battled hard. Youve triumphed.Now things are feeling rough. But it wont be long until you get your stride back. But this time, youll be mora evolved. More able. The stakes will be higher. Youll have mora help and support. Everything will mean more.Heres how youll know if youve recently leveled-up1. Your confidence temporarily dropsIf youre freaked-out, that means youre a professional. - Shane SnowIf youve been successful in the past, and for some reason feel derailed, dont take that as a sign youre on the wrong path.Chances are, youve up-leveled without realizing it. Said Dr. Stephen R. Covey, We control our actions, but the consequences that flow from those actions are controlled by principles.When youve mastered one set of principles, your life will improve. Youll become more competent, successful, and confident. Your interactions with other people will be far deeper and more meaningful. Your social group will shift from people solely interested in entertainment to people interested in solving problems and growth.However, once youve mastered a certain level of principles, youll become aware of and exposed to higher-order principles. Immediately, youll feel like a child again. You dont know how these rules work. Youll begin making mistakes.Your confidence will drop. People will say, You dont seem like yourself.Youll wonder if youll ever be able to feel that saatkorn powerful feeling again. Dont worry, you will.2. Everything will feel like its falling apartJust before author Napoleon Hills greatest success in life, he went through several months of depression.Despite knowing deep within himself what he welches capable of, he became paralyzed and incapable. He was at rock bottom. His life, finances, and relationships began falling apart.Once th e pain became severe enough, something happened. A switch flipped. He snapped. In his own words, I was seized upon by my Other self which had zero fear, was completely clear, and operated with definiteness of purpose.With this immediate clarity, he was able to get direct insights about how to achieve his goals. But this acceleration and advancement came after several months of failure, defeat, confusion, and depression. He had up-leveled and was facing bigger challenges and responsibilities than he ever had before. Said historian Will Durant, I think the ability of the average man could be doubled if it were demanded, if the situation demanded.It took a while for him to adapt to the higher-order demands of his new situation. But adapt he did. And adapt you will. You havent yet risen as high as youre about to because youve never been demanded as much as you are now.Theres a fear of success lurking within you. Youre not sure if you really want to keep ascending. But you already know within yourself that you will. Youre resolved. Its done. You know its happening. Youre being pulled.3. Youll begin to question yourself and your goalsIn the midst of your confusion and lack of performance - as your world is seemingly falling apart - youll begin to question yourself and the path youre on.First, your life isnt really falling apart. Its better now than its ever been before. Youre living at a much higher and more powerful level than ever before. Youre just adjusting to what that means. Youll rise up.But in the meantime, youll question. Clarity will lack. Youll be surrounded by fog. Youll feel disoriented.Its during these moments that youll need to stick to your core practices for clarity. Youll need to deepen your learning, deepen your meditations/prayer. Even still, for a period of time, the clarity that once seemed to have an infinite flow will feel dried-up.It will be very disheartening.4. Youll feel alone even among close friendsDespite developing deeper and bett er relationships - youll feel alone. The alone time you need is necessary. At the same time, though, you need to maintain connection.Youre as sick as youre secrets.Isolation wont help you get where you need to go. The more successful you become, the more connected youll need to be. If you become isolated, and stay isolated, youll lose your mind. In that case, everything will permanently come crashing down. In the words of Greg McKeown, your success will become a catalyst for failure.So, take the time you need to get clarity. But be even more vulnerable and honest now with your inner circle. You need them now more than ever. This doesnt mean you wont feel alone. You absolutely will feel alone. But just like the lack of confidence, this feeling will shortly go away. Youre growing and be purged.Youll soon see the people in your life with more love and gratitude than ever before. Your humility for all they do for you will peak. Your joy for the little things will surmount any achieveme nt or goal you desire.5. Youll feel numb to what used to inspire youFor a time, youll feel totally disconnected with your passion, craft, and mission. What used to keep you awake at night with excitement now finds you sleeping-in in attempts to avoid.The external pressure feels too much. Its harder to focus. Its harder to get into the zone. Harder to feel inspired. Harder to care.This numbness isnt because you dont care, though. Youve advanced in understanding. Youve adapted. Youre being double-teamed now. Your brain is being forced to deal with more at once. This is how you advance. This is how you develop deeper mastery and subconscious ability to perform even under the severest of conditions.Seek the breakthroughs. Theyll come. The light will break through. And soon enough, it will come through with more intensity than youve ever experienced before.6. Youll start going through the motions and continue to succeed - but it wont be as enjoyableFor a while, it will feel like youre g oing through the motions. Youll have so much momentum that muscle memory will take over. But your heart wont be in it for a short-time.Youll still succeed. But it wont matter to you, because you didnt push yourself. Succeeding will become boring, because youre not in alignment with your why.Youre close, though, to reconnecting.7. Youll start making uncharacteristic mistakes - and you wont be botheredWith your temporarily lack of confidence and stability, youll begin dropping balls that were easy to hold before.Small things that were once easy to figuratively lift will feel extremely heavy and difficult.Initially, youll be freaked-out by the balls youre dropping. But at the same time, stability and sanity are more important. So you willing drop some pretty big balls.To other people, the consequences seem impossibly big. But your mind has already been stretched. You have a much, much bigger vision. Although once big, these balls are now small in your mind. Your security is internal, so you know youll be able to solve whatever problems may arise. To quote Josh Waitzin in The Art of Learning, Sometimes limits need to be pushed.8. Countless opportunities present themselves - distractionsA once-in-a-lifetime opportunity is irrelevant if it is the wrong opportunity. - Jim CollinsOne of the problems with your situation is that more and more opportunities seem to be presenting themselves.You leveled-up for a reason. You learned how to do things other people havent discovered. Youve developed what Cal Newport calls, rare and valuable skills.Your discernment will really need to sharpen if youre going to make it to the top of this level and up to the next. Most people sell-out at some point. The opportunities become too compelling and the vision fades into oblivion.The only opportunities that matter are the ones that deeply resonate. Stay close to people you know deep down really care. There will be plenty of people out there who will tell you what they think you want t o hear. And theyll be compelling and youll probably fall for it a time or two.But dont buy it this time. The people you decide to maintain on your journey of life will determine your long-term success and inner-peace.9. Youll be faced with a crucial decisionIts at this point that youre faced with the crucial decision - will you connect deeper with the WHY that brought you here? Or will you succumb to the pressure?Pressure can busts pipes or it can make diamonds.Here is your moment. Your situation is poised. Everything youve done has brought you to this point. Now is your time to rise-up or let-up.In order to reconnect with your WHY, youll need to un-commit to several opportunities that were nothing more than appealing distractions. Youll need to have some hard conversations with the people who matter most. Youll need to get back to your core. Youll need to get back to the drawing board.Its at this point that you can take all youve learned in the past and go bigger than youve ever gone before.10. Youll need to adjust - what got you here wont get you thereThe biggest fear of growth is the challenge that will be demanded. Now is your time to adjust to the newness. Embrace it.Newness brings flow. It allows for more angles on the same beautiful experiences, relationships, and meanings youve had in the past.11. Youll need to recommit - it wont be easy, but it will come (you cant go back)A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions. - Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.You need to get definitive again- like you were when you first caught fire. Youll need to get back to the beginners mind. Youll need to want it bad enough to get extremely consistent again. No more lack of consistency. Now is the time to be more consistent than ever before.12. Youll Quickly Adapt To Your New Lessons - Growth Will Come Shockingly FastPrepare for faster growth than youve ever experienced before. Your momentum is now multiplied and compounded.Youre no longer alone on your quest. You have lots of teammates and supporters who will help you. Not only that, but something inside of you expanded beyond the dimensions of what you could create. Now, youre creating, building, connecting, and living. Its a sight to see.13. Enjoy itLet it happen.Enjoy it.Youre on to something great right now. Your confidence is back.This article originally appeared on Medium.