6 signs your job is ruining your mental health - TheJobNetwork

6 signs your job is ruining your mental health - TheJobNetworkFirst and foremost, most of us go to work to make money. Ideally, on top of that, you like what you do. On top of that, there may even be social benefits to going to work every day if you also enjoy being around your co-workers. If your job checks all of those boxes, great If it even checks just one, you might be doing all right. But if you cant think ofone positivething about your current situation, you might need to make changes. Work should not be a place that makes you feel terribleall the time. Yet this is what happens to many people who must endure toxic work situations that are damaging them mentally. If this is happening to you, it is time to find a new job or make strides toward a new situation. Here are six warning signs that its time to make a change. googletag.cmd.push(function() googletag.display(div-gpt-ad-1467144145037-0) ) 1. You cant bring yourself to go to workWhen you wake up in the morning, do you feel as though your limbs weigh 1,000 pounds and you simply cannot pull them out of bed? Does the idea of stepping foot in your office fill you with crushing anxiety, EVERY single day? Do you take days off simply because you cant bring yourself to go into work? These are all great, big, flashing warning signals that something is terribly wrong at work, and its wreaking havoc with your mental health. Sure, for most people its not common to bound out of bed with a huge smile on your face ready to take on the day (how lucky if thats the case), but if work dread plagues you every morning, thats not the norm.2. You can never really leave workIf you have no chance to get out of a non-work mindset, youre not living a balanced life. When youre home with family or friends, do you mucksmuschenstill have your phone connected to work email and attached to your palm so you can deal with clients or co-workers? Are you always on call? Do you not even get to take a break when youre in the office to go for a 15-minute walk to get some lunch or a breath of fresh air? If so, that is not a healthy way to live your life, and you probably need to make some radical changes. Everyone deserves time off, no matter what you do for a living.3. You dont want to socialize at workFrom Monday through Friday, the average adult spends half of his or her waking life at work, so it is vital to get along with the people you spend time around all week, even just on a cordial level. But if things are badeanstalt at work, the idea of talking to or even looking at your co-workers may make you feel sick to your stomach. That is not a good thing, and a very clear indicator that your job is making you deeply unhappy.4. Youre overlooked and ignoredSome people prefer to go under the radar at work, but there is a real downside to always being overlooked or ignored you dont get the accolades for a job well done that you deserve, and you might even get passed over when it comes time to receive raises or promotio ns. Chronically overlooked employees may start to feel like they dont even exist, which can put them into an extremely unhealthy frame of mind. No one wants to feel as if they dont matter.5. Your job fills you with guiltSometimes we dont think about the consequences of a particular job when first accepting it we just need to work, whatever that may be.But if you are working for a company that commits the unconscionableenvironmental damage human rights violations misogynistic, homophobic, or racist practices selling unsafe products treating workers like sub-humans supporting immoral or unethical ideologies lying to the publicsimply going to work may fill you with an awful sense of guilt. If thats the case, it may be time to find another opportunity. We all need to pay the bills, but youll want to remain true to your morals if what your company does is negatively affecting your state of mind. If you cant look yourself in the mirror, your mental health will suffer.6. Your personal life is sufferingA miserable job may make you feel miserable during work hours. A completely unacceptable one will leak into your personal hours. You might get testy with your spouse or kids at home. You might never be in the mood for intimacy. You might spend all your free time sleeping, crying, sulking, or simply thinking about work. If you feel terrible at all times because of your job, there is no question that your job is ruining your mental health and you need to take some positive action.

#MakingTime A Day in the Life of A New York TEDx Producer and Public-Speaking Pro

MakingTime A Day in the Life of A New York TEDx Producer and Public-Speaking Pro Women can do anything but not everything. As the largest online career community for women, we at Fairygodboss realize that balance is a myth, and that picking what to prioritize when everything feels important on a day-to-day basis isnt always easy. In the MakingTime series, women share with us how, for one day, they chose to spend their most precious resurce time.--WhoTricia BroukWhatDirector, Writer, Executive Producer of TEDxLincolnSquare and the NYC Speaker SalonWhereNew York City--4 a.m.This first thing I do every morning is say goodbye to my husband Joe, and hello to my cats, Lola and Bella. Joe leaves the house early and has replaced the horror of an alarm clock with a lovely kiss and a have a great day. I change into my work out clothes and then press the go button on the coffee maker. Joe loads it up for me ahead of time. Its the little things.My brain fires rapidly early morning. Im clear an d productive. Im inspired and awake. Once Ive got my coffee, I open emails. This particular morning I start with emailing the speakers bureaus that will be attending the frage Speaker Salon in New York City. I send them a follow-up email expressing my excitement for their attendance and a PDF of the speakers and their fellow colleagues for the salon. Im a big believer in the personal touch. I want them to know their participation is extremely valued. After my priority emails, I respond to everyone whos emailed me after 5 p.m. from the night before. I have a hard stop at 5 p.m., so I can end the day with my husband.6-630 a.m.I meditate every day in bestellung to allow for the space to accomplish everything I need to but also to allow for the space for patience, compassion and truth. Meditation gives me the space to make better decisions throughout the day about everything.630-640 a.m.I walk to the gym, say hello to Franz at the front desk who always greets me with a welcome back640-8 a.m.I love working out. As a former dancer, Ive always been deeply connected to my body. Working out and being physical is extremely important to me. Its physical mediation for me. I rotate between the elliptical machine, the stairs, recumbent bike and the treadmill. Today is a cardio and weight training day 60 minutes of cardio, 30 on the stairs, 30 on the elliptical, and 30 minutes of dumbbells and abs, followed by a quick stretch. I need to improve on my stretching.8-815 a.m.I walk from 11th avenue and 55th street to 57th and 6th Avenue to my chiropractor. The city has woken up and everyone is commuting. I get to see all the New Yorkers going from home to work, and always get excited that I get to go home to work after my appointment.815 a.m.Dr. Joe gives me an adjustment and Im ready to take on the world. Ive been going to chiropractors, massage therapists, and acupuncturists for my entire life. When you are a professional dancer, the maintenance doesnt stop when you stop danc ing. Its part of your life to always to make sure the aches and pains are handled.830 a.m.I walk back home adding a few more steps to my apple watch. Im not competitive at all, except when it comes to my watch. I love getting tapped, meaning that Ive met or outdone my personal goals.9-10 a.m.I have breakfast, shower, get dressed and prepare for the work day. This includes looking at my to do list, and adding to it. I am a big believer in lists because my brain doesnt have the space for anything extra. If my list of what I need to accomplish is on an external hard drive, my brain functions at a much faster rate.1000 a.m.Today I have a speaker client coming in from Connecticut, so Im working with her in-person. I am a member of the Stage, Directors and Choreographers Union, SDC, so Ill be meeting her in their conference room on 44th Street. It takes me 30 minutes to walk from 57th and 10th to 44th between 8th and 9th, which also gets me some more steps logged. In order to maximize my time, Ill be working at SDC until our appointment at noon.1030 a.m.I posted a link to the application for TEDxPhiladelphia on Facebook this week and it got lots of questions. Since Im launching The Fearless Speaker masterclass in September, I want to create buzz surrounding what it means to fill out a winning application. I do a Facebook Live answering the questions about whether you should apply or have someone nominate you, whether you should apply to several events, and whether you need a completed talk before you apply. If youre wondering if you are totally comfortable talking about yourself, then apply. If you are not, have someone nominate you. You can apply to many, but stick to one idea. And you do not need a completed talk to apply, just your awesome idea.11 a.m.I move to the next item on my list, the Chicago Speaker Salon. The Speaker Salon in New York City has created such buzz on social media people from around the world have reached out about me coming to their cities t o do a salon there. I have salons lined up for Chicago, Austin, San Francisco, Canada and London. Chicago is first on the list, and its in a week, so I email the host from the city to make sure we have everything we need to have a successful event.1130 a.m.Im going to be a featured guest on a new podcast called Smart Women Invest and they want to do a pre-call meeting with me. Being prepared is everything, so I love when people want to hop on a call ahead of time to make sure we all have the information we need to be successful. One tip however, if you are a podcast host or a podcast guest, dont talk about the main points on a pre-call. Save those for the actual show, so they sound fresh and new.12-1 p.m.My client arrives with a new script in hand and I have her read it out loud. I make notes as we go. This is her first draft, from our initial active listening session, where I ask her tons of questions about her idea. During the first session, we uncover many new ways of thinking ab out an idea shes been sitting with for years. This is my favorite part, because I get to reflect back onto my clients the part of the idea they may not have seen, since they are so close to it. Once she gets through the script, I always start with whats great. Then I move into what needs to be worked on. I go through page by page, making notes and pointing out ways of improving. I believe in my clients and their ideas, so its an absolute toxikum to be able to work with people who want to make a difference in the world. We wrap at 1 p.m. and talk about the next steps, which will be putting the puzzle pieces of her script in a different order since right now, for me, its too linear.2 p.m.I hop in a cab from 44th between 8th and 9th to 26th and Park Avenue South and head to the Creative Coalition Speaker Series where Im talking with their summer interns. I arrive to meet Tara, Billy and Opy, the loveliest, most articulate college students. They have their notebooks and their eyes wide open. I believe having a mentor can make the difference in a young persons life. I mentor young people as often as I can, and this day is an opportunity to share as much about my story as I can to hopefully spark a thought that behauptung young interns can hold on to long into their journey of their lives. We talk for an hour and in that time learn about what they are interested in so I can make introductions to people that can potentially continue the lineage of mentorship.300 p.m.I hop in a cab back to my home office on 57th Street and during the ride check my phone for any missed calls or emails that snuck in during the hour I was away from it. The cab ride takes 25 minutes, but because I meditated this morning, it helps me keep from stressing out that Ill only have five minutes to turn on my computer, put in my headset and hop on a Zoom call with my client.330 p.m.Today I have a virtual work session with a client whos rehearsing for TEDxSouthLakeTahoe. Weve been working on her s cript for weeks. Shes the longest running leading lady from the Phantom of the Opera on Broadway and has created a beautiful talk about learning to fall in love with fear. She is the kind of client I love working with because shes doing the work. When I woke up, I logged into our Google doc and saw she made changes from the night before so before she woke up, I made notes for her to work on until we meet up now, in the afternoon. We go through the changes together and get one step closer to having a finished draft. By helping someone turn their idea into a big talk, keynote or TEDx, I get to help them make the world a better place by touching the lives of others. Its the kind of legacy I want to leave in the world.430 p.m.On Monday of this week, I led The Art of the Big Talk workshop in Detroit to a company who is revolutionizing the ways we can recycle batteries to reduce the negative impact on the environment. They have an incredible message on the how and why we need to recycle o ur batteries everything from the double As in our remote controls to the batteries in our computers. Since their message is super important, they asked me to come and help them craft and deliver their talks, so they can be better speakers. I had a follow-up call today with the contact of the event, to see about the next steps with the company.500 p.m.I shut down my computer, put my phone on the charging doc and Joe arrives home. We always sit down at the kitchen table and talk about our day over a vodka martini. Once we catch up, then we turn on The Beat with Ari Melber on MSNBC to stay tuned into whats happening in the world of politics. This always gives us a lot to talk about and laugh about630 p.m.We feed Lola and Bella and then ourselves. Dinner can either be at the table or in the living room depending on how tired we are from the day. Tonight, its dinner and Netflix on the couch.730 p.m.I go to bed between 730 and 8 p.m. every night. And Im not ashamed of it Most people know this about me, so I wont be attending anything during the week that happens after 5 p.m. Every once in while Ill rally and make it to an event, but its rare. And the reason is simple I have a lot to accomplish in the world and I want to be my best. Being my best means getting enough sleep to function at the highest possible level. I take my role in my life very seriously and I want to be a great director, writer, producer, curator, mentor and wife. I know what I need to do to make this possible and I do it.--Interested in contributing to Fairygodboss MakingTime series? Email infofairygodboss.com with MakingTime in the subject line.